Tia's Thread - Instant Gratification!!!

I might be a bit too young to say this, but generation of today (I am looking at you Gen Y) are very much used to instant gratification when it comes to... well, pretty much everything.

Instant love, instant relationship, instant break up, instant noodles/soup - you name it.

We have forgotten the value of space because we are crowding each and every one of our moments with instant gratification.

Let's take an example of love.

There was a time when people used to wait in the coffee shop/shopping mall/road side hours to meet their lover.

Now if we don't get a text response in less than 5 minutes, we start to feel that we are now less loved/valued.

Regardless of the fact that the person we had been texting might be busy at work, at home or doing some chores or other. 

But we judge people's commitment based on how soon they jump at our command. 

That's not love. That's an obligation. I could even call that slavery.

One thing I do in my relationship (all of them. Not just with my husband), I send a message or call (if it's urgent and I need response fast) and then wait for them to get back to me. If it's urgent, I take executive decision on my own because well, I can't wait on my hands for urgent tasks.

My family and friends know that I don't get offended if I don't get call back instantly or they text me back right away. And if for some reason I can't get back to them instantly, well, that's nothing personal. I am just busy.

It helps them appreciate the relationship I have with them and the freedom that comes with it without any obligation. 

My husband knows that if I am at work or hanging out with a friend, I may or may not see his message and hence might reply back when I see it. He is fine with it.

I know that if he is at work or may be meeting a friend for a coffee, he may or may not see my messages and won't reply back until after. I am also fine with it.

If it's urgent, we call. If not, we wait. Simple.

That's because I don't need my relationships to constantly validate themselves for me. I know who loves me and who doesn't. The ones who love me, will love me no matter what. The ones who don't, well, who gives a damn about them anyway?

The reason I brought this topic is because in this show, what we are seeing is a bad case of instant gratification.

Maiya decides that Bhaiya needs to get back with Sona. She immediately puts a plan in action.

Bhaiya has already made a decision with Sonakshi that they will co-parent as friends. But since Maiya is willing to hand over instant gratification, why would he say no. So he also jumps into his own action.

Asha was always into instant gratification along with Elena. So they grab the opportunity and jump into the band wagon.

Soha always wanted her parents together, so she hopped in there as well.

But no one asked Sonakshi, if she really wanted a relationship right now. 

Because who gives a damn what a woman wants. What matters the most is what everyone else wants for her.

Girls and boys, men and women, take my advice.

DO NOT enter a relationship because someone else wants you to get in there. Trust your gut feelings. Only you can tell what is right or wrong for you and also if this is the right time for you to take that step in your current emotional and mental state.

Love or no love, if you are ready for a relationship, you will feel excited, a little nervous but a whole lot of happiness to enter into it.

My husband tells me that he had the best night of sleep the night before our wedding day. That's how he knew that he was making the right decision.

That's how you should be feeling. 

But if you are not ready, you will be scared, apprehensive, make excuses and try to convince yourself or need a lot of convincing. 

We all know what is Sonakshi's state of mind.

Just because you love someone, it doesn't mean that you will be ready for the next step of commitment immediately.

For example, everyone plans for children after marriage. But does everyone get ready to have children the very next day of the marriage? Then it's quite evident that the most obvious progression doesn't necessarily have to happen right away.

There is no right or wrong time for a relationship. The only right time is when you are ready for it and the only wrong time is when you are not. It can't get simpler than this.

It can take time to see if this is the right emotional and mental state or the right time to make a lifelong commitment. 

May be she needed more time and space to see where this relationship was going, may be she wanted to see if they can work on building the trust that was broken previous two times, may be she wanted time to sort out her own emotions.

But who gives a eff?

What Bhaiya wants, when he wants, how he wants - He must get it.

And anyone who stands against his demands, is the villain!!!

Kuch Rang Demands Ke Aise Bhi!!!

P.S. I am very busy today. So the update might be slow and/or late. 



EPISODE: The episode starts with Bhaiya is in the garden feeding ice cream to Soha and Golu. Sonakshi comes there.

Bhaiya sees Sonakshi. He taunts Sonakshi that she is so busy that she could not come to her friend's engagement. 

Sonakshi gulps.

Bhaiya tells her that she came too late.

Sonakshi says may be.

Bhaiya asks if she brought anything for him. She shakes her head no.

Bhaiya says you didn't bring me anything?

Sonakshi is about to say something when Radha drops in.

She says that it's time for ring ceremony.

Bhaiya says that the priest said that there is still time.

Radha says that now is the time.

She drags him away.

Bhaiya stands with Nisha when Vicky notices that the ring is missing.

Radha and Vicky are in tension.

Turns out that Golu, the brilliant mastermind, has hidden the rings.

Ishwari stammers something about postponing the engagement.

The priest says that there is only 15 minutes left until the engagement. If the rings are not found, the engagement won't happen today.

Radha panics and tells Vicky to buy new rings.

But the priest says that only the rings that are blessed can be used in the engagement.

Asha and Ishwari feel relieved that they still have time to ruin Nisha's day. 

Radha puts everyone on charge of finding the rings.

In the meanwhile Bhaiya and Sonakshi shamelessly ogling each other with the song from yesterday playing in the background.

Even the lyrics are apt.

In a second I will be yours, just give a signal.

Me: The next line would be,

But if you don't say anything, I got another option.

Getting married is important. Besides every woman looks same in the dark. I am sure Bhaiya must be used to it by now. He can manage.

What? You think I am being cruel? Well, let's see here. Sonakshi came here. She is not saying anything.

What is Bhaiya doing?

He knows that he doesn't want to marry Nisha. But he is still leading her on. That means my example of bird in bush and bird in hand are very apt. 

He doesn't want to let the bird in hand go until the bird in bush steps into the trap.

Great example of lover, I must say. He is keeping his options open.

Because getting married is more important than WHO he is getting married too.


Golu and Soha are sitting under a table. He is worried that so many people are looking for the ring, someone might find it.

Soha has full confidence in Golu. Soha asked him where did he hide the rings.

Golu says that he has hid it behind the bed. So they should just sit on the bed and if anyone asks, they will say that they have already looked behind it.

In the meanwhile, Sonakshi is taking an evening walk in Bhaiya's bedroom remembering past memories.

She grabs Bhaiya's picture and says: Whenever I see you, my breathing stops. Whatever road I take, I come back to you. Why does it happen? Why? 

Me: Oh really? I didn't see you faint for lack of oxygen since you came back in Delhi? If anything, all I saw was you breathing fire and hail storm on his head. Suddenly, just because everyone said so, your breathing is being affected? That's called power of suggestion which mostly affects weak willed and feeble minded people like you.

The reason you keep coming back to Bhaiya's feet is also for the same reasons mentioned above.


Anyhoo, Radha brings Nisha to the washroom in Bhaiya's room. She tells her that Nisha is going to marry Bhaiya. So it's no big deal. 

Nisha says what if someone is there?

They come in and see Sonakshi.

Radha asks what is she doing there?

Sonakshi stammers.

Radha asks her that she had asked Sonakshi to arrange the plates. Why is she here?

Sonakshi stammers: I was just going...

Radha: And you stopped here? In Dev's room? We have no time and don't waste time here.

Radha leaves. Sonakshi is about to leave when Nisha stops her.

Me: Had Sonakshi behaved with decency, she would have answered back Radha to arrange the plates herself or ask the caterer. But since she knows that she is behaving like the literally "other woman", she is stammering in guilt. Today she could not even look at Nisha in the eye. 

I wonder if she has the courage to speak the reason she was here. But I guess not.

Nisha asks Sonakshi if this is Bhaiya's room. Sonakshi says yes.

Nisha says, that means this is the room where Sonakshi and Bhaiya... I mean, then why did you come here?

Me: Yes, darling. This is the room where they did everything except be a husband and wife in the truest sense. So you are good. 

But the question you asked, was on point. You are a smart woman, Nisha and I love smart women.


Sonakshi says: Actually I was passing by and remembered old memories. So I came in.

Nisha asks: Sonakshi, you are okay, no?

Sonakshi answers: Yes. 

She leaves. Nisha thinks.

Me: Wrong person to ask this question, Nisha. You should take all your questions to Bhaiya. Oh and yes, don't sign a pre-nup. I'd love for you to take him to the cleaners. I know you won't get married to him. But if any of you guys do, please don't sign a pre-nup unless you are richer than them. Then definitely sign a pre-nup.


Bhaiya is drinking water in the kitchen. Elena comes there.

He jokes: I am willing to give you anything. Just leave me alone.

Elena says: I can't believe that you are still joking.

Bhaiya: I was serious. You are looking at me so angry I thought you will kill me.

Elena: Dev bhai, this is not the time to joke.

Bhaiya jokes some more: You are angry because you are lost, no? I said that Sonakshi would come, she came.

Elena: You will go to Sonakshi right now and will talk to her. Stop your hide and seek game. I know Sona. She loves you very much.

Bhaiya: I am getting engaged. This is not the time to speak all useless talk. Besides, I don't understand what Sonakshi wants.

Elena: You don't understand what Sonakshi wants, but you know what you want. Why don't you do something? Why are you getting engaged? Would you be happy with this engagement? Is this your love story?

Bhaiya: Not every marriage is a love story and not all love story gets a happy ending.

Elena glares at him. Bhaiya leaves from there.

Me: Do you remember when I said yesterday that for Bhaiya, Sonakshi was only one option. The preferred option, but option nonetheless? Yep. Hence proved. 

Elena, you actually thought this was a love story? It was not.

If Bhaiya really only loved Sonakshi and his only destination was Sonakshi, he could not have go through with this engagement. After all he wanted Sonakshi to come and break the engagement. That means, he didn't want to be with Nisha at all. But since he is still going to go through the engagement, that means that he wanted Sonakshi if she agrees, otherwise any woman will do.

If Sonakshi really loved Bhaiya and he was her only destination, she could not have stand in the engagement for as long as she did. She could not have tolerated to watch them together. But since she is still standing there and watching them going to go through the engagement, that means that she is doing all this under family pressure. Otherwise, she would have been at her home in her pj watching netflix with ice cream.

This is not love story. This is optional love story.

By the way Bhaiya, since you have decided to go through this engagement and you have told Soha that no other woman but her mother will come in your life, how do you plan to explain your broken promise to her? Do you also expect her to understand the way you expected her mother to understand? 



Golu is nervous. Soha says that if Golu looks so nervous, then everyone will know that he has hidden the ring.

Just then Sona comes there. Soha and Golu greet her.

Sona asks what are they doing there?

Me: This is their home. They can do whatever. But why are you going through every room of the house? Are you mimicing income tax raid? Why don't you stay put where every other guests are?


Golu says that they had been looking for rings.

Sona asks then where is it?

Golu blurts out that it's definitely not under the bed.

Soha says: Yes, Mamma. Golu is speaking the truth.

Sona says: Then when did I say that Golu is lying? You are hiding something naa?

Golu says: BigChi, why would I hide something? Rings are already hidden?

Sona says: Really?

She starts walking slow with Mummy glare.

Golu blurts out in fear: BigChi, I didn't do anything. Everything was Soha's plan.

Soha grits her teeth to Golu: Golu...

She slaps her head.

Sona asks: Tell me, what did you two do? You hid the rings naa? Where is the ring?

Golu takes out the ring.

Sona: What made you do this? This is not a joke. Everyone is looking for the ring outside. Why did you do this? Miss Bose, tell me. I am asking you something.

Soha says: Because I didn't want Papa to get engaged.

Golu choruses: Even I didn't want that.

Sona is shocked. 

She says: But it was Dev's decision. And you two also said yes. What about that? We will talk about this later, okay? I am taking this ring out. Don't tell anyone that you two hid this ring. Come out in two minutes.

Soha says: Mamma, you please don't take this ring out.

Golu says: BigChi, I like you. You are the best.

Sona thinks: I wish everything was as simple as their thoughts.

Me: To have simple life, you need people who are honest and straightforward. You can't have a simple life with players and liers, Sonakshi. It's like expecting honesty from a bunch of crooks. You will just keep getting disappointed. It's not their fault. It's your fault for having expectations from them which they are unable to keep.


Sonakshi comes out with the ring and thinks about the past. Bhaiya sees her.

They again ogle each other. 

Just then Nisha comes and tells Sonakshi that she wants to talk to her.

Sonakshi nods and goes with her.

Me: Bhaiya, you have decided to go through the engagement, but still ogling your ex. and you are throwing longing glances at Behena while blatantly leading Nisha on. If that is not insulting to both women, I don't know what is. And people think you are in lau. That's probably the joke of the century.

Nisha, I hope you give Sonakshi some lesson in decency. You go, girl!!!


Nisha brings Sonakshi to the garden.

Sonakshi says that let's talk here, please.

Nisha asks: Is this your favourite place?

Sonakshi goes in memory land.

She asks: Did you want to talk to me about something?

Nisha: Actually I wanted to ask you for suggestion. I want to give Dev something. Nothing big, but it's the first gift from me to him. I am very nervous. I don't know what would be best. A branded pen or super cool tie?

Sonakshi says: Both are good options.

Nisha: I think both are bad options. Your expression is saying this. Please tell me Sonakshi what should I give him?

Sonakshi: It's strange naa. What can you give to a man like Dev. He has everything. I mean what he can buy with money, he has.

Nisha: Then what should I give him?

Sonakshi: Good memories, experiences, talks.

Nisha: Talks. What kind of gift is that?

Sonakshi: Someone like Dev is not impressed by expensive gifts. For him talks are important. Family is important for him. For him, party time is family time. If it's a big gathering he entertains people with his small talks. But he gets tired. He is 100% with his family. If you can make him laugh, make him cry and share his childhood memories, that's what he would like. It's strange that he doesn't like tea in five star hotels. But he can drink 8 cups of roadside tea. Whose heart is so big, how can he hurt anyone? Do you know what was the best gift from me to him was? That roadside coffee. We could talk hours with the roadside coffee.

Nisha says: So you want to say that Dev Dixit is perfect? It's so strange naa that Dev told me something else. 

Sonakshi: What did Dev say?

Nisha says: He said that he was not a perfect husband. He used to make mistakes repeatedly and you used to fix them. That's why your marriage didn't work out.

Sonakshi says: No, that's not true. He didn't used to make mistakes, I used to make mistakes. I couldn't handle anything. That's why it didn't work out. I used to think that I will manage everything, fix everything. But I could not do it. He was managing everything anyway.

Nisha: But Dev said that you used to call him Mamma's boy. Because he didn't used to listen to anyone except his mother.

Sonakshi: So what is wrong in that? Everyone should listen to their mother. I should have understood him. I wanted to change him. It was not his fault.

Nisha says: But Dev said that he was stubborn and selfish. He never treated you well.

Sonakshi: What rubbish? He never did that with me. In fact he can't do this with any woman. He married me with all my weaknesses and shortcomings. I don't know how he is with you. But he was perfect for me. He was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Bhaiya comes there and says: Nisha...

Nisha glares at them and leaves.

Bhaiya asks Sona: What happened Sonakshi? What did you tell her?

Sonakshi looks guilty.


Me: Dialogue writer, are you on pots? Because what Sonakshi said sounds schizophrenic.

1. People who like roadside tea has big hearts? I'd say that people who likes roadside tea has better taste buds.

2. So from they both being responsible for their marriage breaking down to everything is Sonakshi's fault that she could not handle more taunts and lies and pressure to get pregnant?

3. Suddenly, there is nothing wrong being a puppet in Mother's hand. Why? Because now the Mummy is a puppet in your hand, isn't that so Sonakshi? Because when the same mother was lying about your marriage to Jatin, you had no problem telling her that she moulds the truth to fit her agenda. Pray tell what you are doing right now?

I always had this exact problem with you Sonakshi. The moment you decide that you are in love, you lose your personality, sense of right from wrong and even modify the truth to justify your weakness.

4. So Bhaiya was perfect for her because he married her knowing her shortcoming of not being able to get pregnant. Wow!!! Such sacrifice. Which turned into pressure the moment Mummy said so. 

By the way, do you think Sonakshi that you would be standing here gushing over Bhaiya had Soha not been born? You had no value as an infertile woman, Sonakshi. That's the reality.

And Bhaiya, why are you so worried that Sonakshi might have said something wrong to Nisha? Are you worried that your bird in bush might have spooked your bird in hand and you will be left with no toys to play with. 

May be that's why you should not play games with two women? But I doubt you will learn your lesson.


Nisha comes out. Radha asks where is Dev?

Nisha says where he should be.

She tells the DJ to stop the music and asks to call everyone there including Ishwari and Asha.

Nisha's mother asked what happened?

Dev and Sona come there.

Nisha says: Since they are there, might as well ask them.

Bhaiya pretends complete innocence.

He says: I think there is some misunderstanding here, let's talk it out naa.

Nisha says: Now everything is clear.

Bhaiya says: Nisha, listen to me.

Nisha says: Enough. Now just answer my question you two.

Nisha's mother: Nisha beta, you can't talk to Dev like this.

Radha says: Nisha beta, you come to me. I will solve everything. 

Nisha: No one needs to solve anything for me. I can solve everything on my own.

Then she turns to Bhaiya: So tell me, do you still love Sonakshi?

Everyone is shocked.

Me: Go slay, girl!!! Woot woot!!! What a woman.

Bhaiya, you didn't think that you will be put in the spot like this, did you? You thought Sonakshi will break your engagement and you will pretend complete innocence so that all blames fall on Sonakshi. But Nisha has put you in the spot. 

So Bhaiya Squad, now do you get who has the right to make decisions to make or break an engagement? What Sonakshi says doesn't matter. It's all up to the bride and the groom.


Sonakshi stammers: Nisha, what are you saying? I said all this because...

Nisha: Shut up. Don't talk between us. I am asking Dev. Since the day I came here, I asked everyone. (She glares at Bhaiya) Did I ask or not? 

Bhaiya nods.

Sonakshi tries to interrupt again.

Nisha says: Enough. I am not a ten year old kid whom you can convince. I asked Dev something.

Me: May I say that I love how Nisha made Sonakshi shut up? I think she'd have been a better wife for Bhaiya. She is capable of keeping him in line and shut up Radha and crew. Sonakshi is pathetic.


Ishwari is praying her son to speak the truth.

Radha interrupts: Nisha beta, what is going on? Why are you asking all this question from Dev?

Ishwari says: Let Nisha ask whatever question she wants to ask.

Nisha: So Mr. Dev Dixit, do you still love your ex-wife?

Bhaiya is thinking exactly how he can modify the answer to keep the bird in hand because the bird in bush hasn't fallen in the trap yet.

Nisha asks: Just answer yes or no.

Bhaiya finally says: Yes.

Bhaiya squad is happy.

Sonakshi looks shocked.

Bhaiya is unhappy that he had to speak the truth.

Me: He had no other option, naa. He has already told Ishwari and Soha that he is stuck on Sonakshi. If he had lied today, they would have charged him tomorrow. So he had to speak the truth. But while truth frees other people, for Bhaiya, truth is the poison he never wants to touch with a ten feet pole.


PRECAP: Sonakshi says: Dev, I didn't know this will happen. I am sorry.

Bhaiya: You are feeling bad after my engagement broke? I don't want to talk to you.

He tries to run (as usual).

Ishwari asks: Dev, where are you going?

Bhaiya: Far away from here.

Sonakshi calls: Dev, Dev...

He runs.

Me: The escape artist strikes again. Go doggy. Fetch the runner. And keep your senses sharp because you will have to keep fetching him every time things doesn't go his way or a situation is tough. Because he is not the type to face the reality head on. He is the type to run from it.




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