Tia's Thread - Motherhood!!!

Today I am making post on Motherhood since Sunday is Mother’s Day. Now, motherhood is an amazing thing. When a woman becomes a mother, she immediate devotes herself to her baby. The pain of labour instantly becomes forgotten holding the tiny bundle of joy whom she only felt within her, but didn’t meet until now.

There are many mothers in the world who are making their child’s life filled with joy, love and laughter each day. There are also mothers who open their arms, heart and home for someone else's child. With such mothers, you always know that you have a place called home.

So today let me tell you a story of such two mothers. They lived far away from each other.

They had nothing in common. Their language was different, cultures were different, lifestyles were different and the world they lived in was different.

One had a little blond haired, blue eyed baby boy. Let’s call her Mamma O. And the other Mother had a dark brown haired, deep brown eyed baby girl. Let’s call her Mamma M.

 

These two kids grew up in two different world, with two different life experiences. 

No one expected them to meet. But one day, they did. Just like that. By fluke.

They fell in love and told their mothers about the person they loved.

Mamma O took one look at the girl and opened her arms and heart and said, "Welcome, darling."

Mamma M, didn't even meet the guy except in skype. But she also opened her heart and said, "Welcome to the family, my dear."

Mamma O and Mamma M had many reasons to nitpick on the differences and try to find a way to make their differences a hindrances in their children's lives. But instead they looked into the similarity between them - they were both mothers and they both wanted their children to be happy. So if their chosen life partner makes them happy, then that was enough reason for both of them to love that said life partner forever.

The two kids got married and live happily ever after with two mothers always by their side, loving them, supporting them, guiding them and yet letting them make their own way on their own terms. 

That's it. This is the story.

It's a simplest and easiest story you will ever read. 

A story where mothers did what they were supposed to do. They respected their children's choice and welcomed their children's life partner and were happy for their children instead of trying to ruin their lives.

You'd think that this simple story will be everyone's reality. Because what could be simpler than watching one's children happy? But it's not. 

That's because when mothers start to behave like God and start making decisions of their children's lives, that's when both their motherhood and their human compassion is lost. Then they start to believe that they have the right to create destiny of their children. 

But we all create our own destiny. A parent has the option to refuse to be part of it until the children prove that their choice is right by making their relationship a success. But they don't have the right to make or change their children's wish, fate or life choices.

In our culture, we revere parents and they should be respected and treated well. But the problem arises when we start to worship our parents. Because you see, we worship God who is always right and can do no wrong. 

But parents are human beings. They can be right and they can be wrong. If we become blind to the human side of the parents, then they can't correct their wrong and they are burdened to be always right which no human being can ever be. 

In my opinion, when human being are worshipped like God (be it saints, scholars or whoever), it take away their best quality any person has to offer. Their humanity. Because divinity is good in religion. But humanity is the ultimate treasure of the human race.

The day a parent loses their humanity for trying to hold onto their fake divinity, that's the day they lose their bond with their children and turn into a demon trying to protect that fake power over their lives. 

But it's also the children's responsibility to make sure that their parents remain their parents and their mind and heart don't turn into stone. After all their parents guide them when they are wrong, why won't they do the same? With due respect of course.

You can worship stone, but they can't give the warmth of home and hearth which defines Motherhood.

Today I am wishing all mothers who embrace their motherhood, their humanity and let their children fly without hindrance in the open sky and wait with their arms open should they fall a great day.

Happy Mother's Day to all you wonderful women and specially to my two mothers, Mamma O and Mamma M... You two have set a high example to follow when I have my own children. I hope I can be half as great mother as you two have been to us. 

I love you!!!


P.S. Today our blog has completed a whole week. I created this blog last Friday and started my first post. I am happy to report that we have 12,950 views in just a week and today isn't even over. Congratulations to you all. We have created a place of open communication, togetherness and free speech. Group Hugs to banta hain guys...

EPISODE:  The episode starts with Sonakshi telling Bijoy that there is nothing between them and nothing can happen either. Their relationship is finished.

Bijoy says: If that's the truth, then I am not going anywhere.

Sona: And I won't have let you go either.

They hug.


Me: So it's clear from today's episode that Bijoy asks Sonakshi to tell the truth and Sonakshi says that they have no relationship anymore.

Bijoy is assured that he doesn't have to watch his daughter making the same mistake again decides to stay by his daughter's side.

Like Bijoy, I am taking Sonakshi on what she said. Let's see if she sticks to it.



At Dixit house, Dev comes running down the stairs, fit and fine, energy level 99.9. He is looking for Sonakshi. He asks Elena where is she.

Elena says that she went back. She offers to call her back.

Dev says that no need. He will talk to her later. 

Ishwari sees Bhaiya's energy level and thinks that no one can lie to a mother but Dev had been lying to her. He has something in his heart and he is saying something else. 


Me: If you know that much, then why not show how generous mothers are and stop blackmailing him? Didn't you say you are a mother? Do mothers blackmail their sons even after knowing what they want just to flex their power on them?

And Bhaiya, couldn't you have at least pretended to be sick for one day? Honestly, that's why people should stick to the truth. Much less hassle to be consistent.

You have the guts to lie to your mother. But you don't have the guts to tell your mother the truth and to tell her to stop forcing you. 

Bhai wah!!! Himmat dikhai bhi to kis cheez mein...

(Wow, you showed courage, but for what reason)...


Bhaiya says: You could have asked me for anything. But what have you asked? And on top of that your condition and that to when there is Khatri in one side, Suhana in another, Sona is the other and you have now surrounded me from all four sides. I just can't... I can't...

Me: Well, you are the one who keeps sitting in the box and closing the lid, Bhaiya. All sides can be open for you if you used your brain for once. 

Let's see. Sonakshi will find the family today or tomorrow.  Once the family is found and they forgive you, Khatri is powerless. That solves Khatri. 

Sonakshi makes no demand on you. Nada. That side is always open.

Suhana just asks for you to be by her side which most of the time you are willing to do anyway. So that side is also solved. Once she becomes an adult, that side is open forever.

Now remains the only boxed side - your mother. If you had just told her that if she won't acknowledge you as her son if you don't marry, then it becomes moot point for you to stay in that house hence you are leaving Dixit house forever. The moment you start to move out of that house and follow her decision to stay out of your life, she'd have changed her mind. 

But by falling for her blackmail, you just gave her the opportunity to forever put a leash around your neck to drag you around where she wants to take you.

You are honestly the biggest moron to ever live. People curse their bad luck. You invite bad luck.



Golu comes there running. 

He says that he came to do what big people does. 

Bhaiya: Fight?

Golu: No, to solve it. Talk and all...

Bhaiya: Discussion...

Golu: Yes. Or I'd have left in anger, no?

Bhaiya: I am sorry Golu. It was my fault. But we were just kidding.

Me: Not we, Bhaiya. Just you.

Golu: Suhana also said sorry to me.

Bhaiya: I know. I didn't come, no? But you know naa how important you are to me and how great friends we are.

Golu: Are we friends again?

Bhaiya: Yes.

They do their handshake/hi-five/thingamajig...

Me: Bhaiya, just in case you were wondering what unconditional love looks like, just see how Golu loves you. All he wants is for you to be happy. He doesn't keep conditions, apply force, keep grudges. Now compare this to your mother's so-called love and you will see what a big lie that is. Your mother only loves one person. That's herself.


Golu asks if he still have fever.

Bhaiya says that no. Why?

Golu says that he is looking tired and sick.

Bhaiya says that must be because of the weakness from the fever...

Me: No, Golu. That is called Ishwari-itis. It's worse than cancer. It's eats brain cells and makes people dumb. Run before you get it... 


Golu says that he can't lie to him. He has seen him sick and well. Either he is sick or sad.

Me: Bhaiya, just see. This little kid can tell how poisonous your mother is. You were happy before and in moments, she came and made you sickly or sad (or somewhere in between) claiming that she wants your happiness. Wow, this is the first time someone claimed that they want someone's happiness while sucking their happiness dry.


Bhaiya says: He is absolutely fine.

Golu says that he won't say anything if that's his answer.

Bhaiya thinks what Maiya says. Still his alarm bells don't ring.


Anyhoo, Bhaiya comes down and Mami calls him to eat with her and Ishwari.

Bhaiya asks if Ishwari ate.

Me: Agar kha bhi li hogi, to bhi thodi hi bolegi? Yehi to leverage hain.

Ishwari is silent. 

Bhaiya asks her again...

Mami asks to Ishwari to eat. 

Ishwari says that she is not hungry.

Dev asks what is she doing?

Ishwari says that her health is not good. She will go and rest.

Dev keeps calling and Ishwari walks away.

Me: Isn't it funny that in the past 7 years, Ishwari never did any hunger strike even though Bhaiya didn't come home. But the moment he started to give her attention, she grabbed his neck. Didn't I say then that you should be careful with people like these? The moment you hold out a finger, they will grab your neck.

Guess what would have happened if Bhaiya had got angry and said that if she wants to be stubborn, then fine. He doesn't have to watch this. If she doesn't want to acknowledge him as her son, then he is living this house forever.

No, guess it.... Ishwari would have ran after him and cursed Radha. Not to mention, her emotional blackmail would have stopped permanently. 

That's what I kept saying. Bhaiya, grow a spine.


Dev sits down tired. 

Radha asks if he is feeling well. She offers to bring him medicine.

Dev says that he is fine.

Radha asks him to do as his mother wants.

Dev says that he can't do this.

Radha tells him to put away old memories and move forward in his life. Ishwari had given him two choices. He can either marry Sonakshi or let them find someone. But whatever he must do, he should do fast before Ishwari starts questioning Sonakshi.

Bhaiya gets scared thinking of what chaos his mother did last time. 

Radha says that he knows that Ishwari can do anything for his happiness. She can also go begging for him. And if Ishwari goes to talk to Bose family, then even he knows what will happen.

Bhaiya is even more scared.

He asks if Ishwari told her that she will talk to Sonakshi?

Radha makes faces and walks away leaving Bhaiya scared.


Me: Oh dear God. Your mother is like a malignant tumour that is threatening to burst any moment. No one should live their life petrified that what their mentally imbalanced psycho family member will do. Yet, you think you have a normal family. How? Meet some people and ask if they live in permanent fear of their life might get ruined any moment by their own family.


Dev calls Sona but Jatin picks up the phone.

He asks if they are going somewhere.

Jatin says that Sonakshi is still at home. There was a problem, so she could not leave yet.

Dev asks: Problem? What problem?

Not sure if Jatin Bhaiya said anything or not.

Anyhoo, Bhaiya comes at Bose house and peeks through window. Sonakshi is combing her hair when she hears Bhaiya's hissing and knocking on the window.

She asks what is he doing there?

He asks her to come out. He wants to talk to her.

She said to wait. She is coming out.

Bhaiya looks sick (Me: I guess he is sick then? Hard to tell sometimes).

Sonakshi comes out and asks why did he come here? What if her dad sees him?

Me: Ummm... So what? Technically he is also supposed to be in Bose house along with Suhana. Bijoy can't say anything.


She sees him sick so checks his temperature: You are still sick, no? Look you still have fever. You don't listen to me, naa. Do you have doubt on me? If that's the case, then...

Dev: It's nothing like that. I just want to talk to you.

Just then Bijoy calls: Sona.

Sona: Coming. What's the big deal that you came here without calling?

Dev: I can't talk to you here. Can we talk elsewhere?

Sona: I am already late. I reached late and it took time to make Baba understand and I should have left for Gurgaon before. But I...

Dev: Sonakshi, I know you are doing it for me. And if I am late telling you this, then.... Just come with me...

Sonakshi hesitates, but then agrees seeing his expression.

They both decide to go by car. Sonakshi doesn't even bother informing anyone that she is going out by call or text.


Bijoy comes looking for Sonakshi expecting her to be around. But she obviously isn't. 

He brought Pati sapta for his darling daughter (Bengali mini crepe like sweet wrap filled with coconut or kheer filling. I prefer kheer filling, just in case anyone wants to send me some)...

Asha asks why is he shouting? 

Bijoy says that he is looking for Sona.

Asha says that she got a call and went out talking. She had meeting to go to. Must have gone there.

Bijoy says that her bag is on the couch. She won't go anywhere without the bag.

Asha says that she must have gone somewhere. She will come back. She is not a child.

Bijoy thinks.


Me: No worries, Baba. You calm down and eat your treat. You can't protect your child from everything. She will either have to learn to protect herself or will have to face the consequences.


In the car, Sonakshi is wondering what is going on. She asks what did he want to say.

Dev stammers. 

Suddenly their car stalls. They wonder what happened and it's tire puncture.

Bhaiya goes to fix the tire but gets sick. Sonakshi says that he is not well. She makes him sit leaning against the front.

Bhaiya sits down and stares at Behena. Sonakshi goes to fix the tire.

Bhaiya wonders that Sonakshi knows how to fix the tire.

Sonakshi says that she knows.

Bhaiya asks when did she learn?

Sonakshi says that someone taught me. 

Bhaiya asks who?

Sonakshi says that last 7 years. 

Me: Bhai wah. Pichle saat saalon ne gadi chalana nehin sikhaya, lekin tire change karna sikha diya. Yeh to wohi baat ho gayee ki kisine swimming nehin sikha, lekin swimming pool maintain karna sikh liya. 

(Wow, last 7 years didn't teach her how to drive. But taught her how to change tires. It's like someone can't swim, but knows how to maintain a swimming pool)


Sona asks what did he want to talk about?

Bhaiya: Someone asked me something of which I had no answer. I don't even know how to react. I thought to discuss this with a friend. You know me. When I looked around, there was no one. I just thought of one person - you.

Sona: You believe that I have answer to your questions?

Bhaiya sits down besides Sonakshi: You know me more than anyone else in the world. No one knows me better than you. You promised to be by my side forever and you left me. According to me that it's not necessary to know someone well to fall in love. But to leave someone, you need to know them very well. 

Sonakshi looks at Bhaiya.

Me: Me too. Are we back to the same song?


Bhaiya gets up.

Sonakshi asks: What is it? You are looking tensed.

Bhaiya: Today, my Mummy asked me for something. She wants us to get back together again. We get married again.

Sonakshi looks at him shocked: What did you say?

Bhaiya: At that time I said no. But to be honest, I didn't know what to say at that time. Mummy wants me to get married because she can't see me alone.

Sonakshi looks at him.

Me: I know, right? (*SNORT*) She can't see him with anyone else either. Lol... 


Sonakshi asks Dev: And you? What do you want? Do you need a life partner?

Dev: This question is very difficult, Sonakshi. Sometimes I think that I am happy, everything is fine. But sometimes I feel very lonely.

He sits down and looks at Behena: You made me realise that whatever Mummy says, I get it. Then yes, I also think that I need a life partner. Someone who supports me and be by my side. 

Sonakshi: Then you know the answer.


Me: Wow... Okay. Remember, Sonakshi accused Bhaiya of mind control? Well, Bhaiya is the one controlled. Ishwari is controlling his mind through the power of her suggestion.

Let's see here. Season 1, Bhaiya decides that he doesn't want children if that means losing Sonakshi. He also convinces her of the fact.

Maata says that she wants kids so he has to have kids.

Bhaiya suddenly decides that he wants kids more than anything else and goes to pressurise Sonakshi.


Season 2, they both agree that them being together is a bad idea. They both claim that they never want to be married ever in their life. 

But Maata says that Bhaiya isn't happy unless he is married. (Of course she will make his wife and him very unhappy after marriage as well)

Bhaiya now thinks that he needs a life partner who supports him and stands by his side. No mention of what he will provide the said life partner and what he is willing to do for that woman. Just the list of demands.

So I guess, we are back where we started. Enjoy the puppet show.


Dev: I only know that I am confused right now. Maa said that if I am not willing to marry you, I should marry someone else. Can you believe it? Maa said it?

Sonakshi looks at him and then turns back to her task. 

Me: Lol... Her expression says it all. Yes Bhaiya, she can totally believe it. She has experienced your mother's brand of manipulation, remember?

Let's see again. Here's translating the actual meaning behind the dialogues,

Bhaiya: My mother wants me to marry you. Well, not you only. But more like any woman with the necessary equipment (that means overy, not brain) will do. Can you believe it that you are an optional choice for me, the son of the Goddess? How lucky can you get?

Sonakshi: Decency prevents me from answering that very insulting proposal. Let me think how in polite language I can tell you to where to offer to send you and your mother.


Sona is about to lift the tire out and gets hurt.

Bhaiya rushes to see: What happened? Is it hurting?

Sona: No, I am fine.

Bhaiya: But I am not fine. What about that?


Me: Umm... How's that behena's headache? Go ask the source what about that. And by source I mean your Mummy.


Sonakshi goes to get the tire: Dev, I think whatever aunty thought is right and her tension is right too. But we know that we can't have anything between us. We have realised it, right? We can't be more than friends. And if we become more than friends, then...

Dev: Then we will get into fights.

Sonakshi: One day we will be happy...

Dev: And one day we will be fighting... And Suhana, we can't do this to her.

Sonakshi: Right.

Dev: Sonakshi, you didn't answer my questions. Should I marry someone else?

Me: Are you frigging kidding me? You are the one who said that he wants a life partner. Why are you asking her? Oh good Lord, kya ratti bhar bhi akal nehin diya iss aadmi ko?

(Oh good Lord, didn't you give even a little brain to this man?)


Sona: If you get married to someone else, my dad will be the happiest person ever. Today he asked me to swear. I said that nothing can happen between us.

Dev: Well, then?

Sona: You should marry someone else.

Dev: How can you be so sure?

Me: Is he kidding or is he that stupid? Didn't he say two seconds ago that his Mummy wants him to marry and that they won't work out but he wants a life partner too? Then how can Sonakshi not be sure? He already gave all the answers. 


Sonakshi: You know the truth as well. But you wanted to hear from me. I gave you all the answers and your problem got solved. You shouldn't just do this for auntyji. You should do it for yourself. 

Dev: If Mr. Bose asks you to marry someone, what will you say?

Me: How's that your business, Bhaiya? You plan your wedding.

Sona: He already asked me that many times and I said no. And if he asks me again in future, I will say no then as well. Because this decision had always been mine. 


Me: Ai ai ya... Laga diya mirchi behena ne. Bhaiya, jal to bahut rahe honge aap. Hain? Aap hi ke ghar mein aap ghulam aur apne baap ke ghar mein Sonakshi apni marzi ka malik. 

(Ai ai ya... Behena put chilli powder on Bhaiya. Bhaiya, you must be burning pretty bad, eh? You are a slave in your own home and Sonakshi is the mistress of her own will in her father's home)

Dev: Of course. Strong and independent Sonakshi Bose.

Me: Sounds like Golu, no? Kuch jal raha hain kya? (Is something burning?)

Sonakshi: The decision you took, it won't be less than a milestone for us.

Dev: For us?

Sona: Hummm... I mean along with being good parents, we will be good friends too.

Dev: Friends...

Me: Bhaiya re, aap to friendzone mein chale gaye. Us gali se koi return ticket bhi nehin milta...

(Bhaiya, you got friendzoned. There is no return ticket from that area).

Sona gets up and touches his arm: Dev, I am happy for you. This will be a new beginning for us where we will have no place for our past. 

Sonakshi smiles.

Dev: If you are happy, then sure. 

Me: Hain? Aap bhi khush ho jao. Maata ki chali aur aap ki bhi naiyaa hili. Aur kya chahiye? Bas Sonakshi naamki bakri nehin mili doobara halal karne ke liye. But koi nehin, yeh nehin to koi aur sahi. Maiya ne ab bakri ki demand ki hain, bhandara to dena padega.

(Hain? You too get happy. Maata got her wish and you also got your boat moving. What else do you want? Just the goat named Sonakshi wasn't available for sacrifice. But so what? If not her, then some other woman. Now Maiya has asked for sacrifice, you gotta slay someone naa)


Sona: From now on, our ways are separate. 

Bhaiya nods.

They look at each other.

Sonakshi goes back to the car. Bhaiya keeps thinking. 


Me: What did you expect, Bhaiya? That was the shittiest proposal ever. Hey girl, my Mummy says that I gotta marry. I am giving you the first pick. Do you wanna dance again on my Mummy's whim? Tell me fast, I have decided that Mummy is right and I need a new caretaker. I also have to post the ad and start interviewing candidates. Seriously?


Radha got a headache. Vicky asks what happened?

Me: I hope brain tumour happened.

Radha says that Dev had said no to marry Sona. But still went after her. He got tired of calling her name in the house and now went after her.

Vicky tells her that he himself refused to marry Sonakshi. Why is she taking tension?

Radha worries that Sona might take this opportunity to jump back in Dev's life. Ishwari already gave permission. They might have made a mistake to suggest this.

Vicky consoles her that nothing will happen like this. Everything will happen according to plan.  


Me: Of course it will go according to plan. Bhaiya is hardly unpredictable when it comes to his Mummy.


Anyhoo, Dev and Sona leave from there when she suddenly sees someone and asks them to stop the car.

Dev asks what is it?

Sona says: There are two ladies there.

Dev asks: Who are they?

Sona: You know them as well. One minute. It's the women from the pictures.

Dev: Oh yes, this is the same family naa?

He is about to jump out. 

Sonakshi asks him to have patience so that they don't make any mistakes.

They decide to follow them. 

They see them going inside a home which is Khatri's home.

Dev is about to go. But Sona says to first find out what are they doing at Khatri's home.

Inside, those ladies (mother and daughter/Dev's new prospective guilty bride) are begging for money from Khatri.

Khatri says that he wants to help them, but can't. He knows that their sister-in-law needs money for treatment. But that woman (Ishwari) has refused to help. 

He badmouths Ishwari in front of them.

Bhaiya gets angry hearing this from outside. 

Khatri claims that Ishwari has got him arrested and her son has beaten him.

The ladies cry.

Me: Sahi kehte hain. Har kisiko apni karmon ki sazaa yehin milta hain. Ishwari is manipulating Dev, Khatri had been manipulating Ishwari. Uparwale ke ghar mein sab ka hisaab ek jaisa hota hain.

(It's true that everyone pays for their crime in this life. Ishwari was manipulating Dev and Khatri had been manipulating Ishwari. Everyone gets their due equally from God)

PRECAP: Dev is telling Ishwari in anger: By what right did you teach me about truth? You don't make your home by ruining others'. You are not mother, you are a thief. I worshipped you like God, but now I am feeling ashamed to call you my mother.

Ishwari is crying pitifully.

Me: And imagination is running on full speed. Maata ka brain se kya kya daily soup type scene nikalta hain naa? Yeh daily soap ki CVs kyun nehin ban jaati? Drama to achhi imagine kar leti hain.

(Maata comes up with such daily soap scenes naa? Why doesn't she become CVs of daily soaps? She has good imagination for drama)

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